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\"09<\/a>
Betty Allen H\u201957<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Steve Charles<\/em>\u2014As the self-proclaimed official photographer for Associate Director of Communications Richard Paige\u2019s Wabash on My Mind<\/i> podcasts, I get to sit in on some of the most interesting conversations on campus. The highlight of my Homecoming Weekend was Rich\u2019s interview of Betty and Bob Allen as they anticipated Betty\u2019s being named an honorary alumna of the College. (Watch for the podcast on the Web site in the near future).<\/i><\/p>\n

Rich does a great job of honoring his guests by taking these conversations seriously while welcoming them and helping them to relax behind the mic. It wasn\u2019t long before Betty and Bob were laughing and taking turns reflecting on DePauw (Betty\u2019s alma mater), Wabash (Bob\u2019s), their first year as a married couple in Mud Hollow (ask them about “rocking the roof”), their life together as Bob rose through the ranks at AT&T, and their children.<\/p>\n

Betty recalled an essay she\u2019d been assigned when she was a girl; she had been asked to write down her life goals.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019ve saved it, and I re-read it just recently,\u201d she said. \u201cI wrote, \u2018I want to be a good wife and mother.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cShe\u2019s been a perfect mother,\u201d Bob said, and he described with gratitude the loving home she had created for him and for their children.<\/p>\n

I felt a surge of gratitude myself; Betty is about the age my own mother would be today had she lived. I was taken back to grade school and those forms we had to fill out at the beginning of the school year:<\/p>\n

Name:
\nAddress:
\nPhone number:
\nOccupation of father:
\nOccupation of mother:<\/p>\n

Dad was an insurance agent. I didn\u2019t know what to write for mom.<\/p>\n

\u201cHomemaker,\u201d she told me, and she said it proudly. It had been her life goal-the hardest work and, for her, the highest calling. Betty Allen\u2019s vocation: A good wife and a good mother. \u201cThe backbone of the family,\u201d as Betty\u2019s honorary alumna citation puts it.<\/p>\n

Consider the fact that Bob and Betty have contributed millions to the new independent housing on campus, and Betty\u2019s a home builder, too!<\/p>\n

Sunday morning I was listening to\u00a0On Being<\/i>\u00a0on NPR as the cultural anthropologist Mary Catherine Bateson spoke about what the word \u201chomemaker\u201d meant to her. She described women doing this work as \u201ccomposing a life, as if throwing a pot or painting\u2014a creative act.\u201d<\/p>\n

She said you\u2019ll even see this tendency when homemaker enter the world of business: \u201cThey often maintain an awareness of whether their decisions are for the general good, they notice discomfort, distrust and try to resolve it. They support people working together.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cHomemaking is creating an environment in which learning is possible,\u201d Bateson said. \u201cThat is what a home is. That is what we want the home we give to our children to be\u2014places where they grow in many different ways, they learn how to connect with other people, they learn how to care for others, they learn skills, their own capacities, how to trust other people, how to trust themselves.\u201d<\/p>\n

\"02<\/a>
Professor Kealoha Widdows H\u201907<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

That got me thinking about Professor Kealoha Widdows\u2014a woman who chose a career path very different from Betty Allen\u2019s. Here\u2019s part of the citation NAWM President Rick Cavanaugh read naming Kay an honorary alumna.<\/p>\n

\u201cYour steadfast belief that your students need to see the world in order to be effective leaders in it is seen in the many immersion learning courses you have taught. You have led students to three continents, including Ecuador to study the political economy of oil production and Europe to learn about policy-making in the European Union. You have brought international visitors to our campus who have enriched students\u2019 experiences.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe are told that your name translates to \u2018love\u2019 and \u2018a great friend who will always be by your side.\u2019 For nearly three decades, you have stood by the sides of scores of Wabash men you have taught, mentored, loved, and cheered on with admiration.\u201d<\/p>\n

The work Kay Widdows and all our best teachers, men and women, do\u2014the dedication and heart they bring to that work\u2014sounds a lot like Bateson\u2019s definition of homemaking. It’s a sign of the times that many of today’s professors do that work both at Wabash and for their own families.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

At the beginning of Saturday\u2019s Homecoming Chapel, President Hess urged returning alumni to \u201cremember that Wabash is always your home.\u201d<\/p>\n

Those words would be little more than wishful thinking if not for generations of women who have loved this \u201cCollege for men\u201d and its students\u2014teacher\/homemakers like Betty Allen and Kay Widdows. The well-earned standing ovations for Betty and Kay at Saturday\u2019s Chapel were a moment to give thanks for them all.<\/p>\n

A teachable moment.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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